How often do you run with a group?
Think about it. When you run, you are also exercising control. You do it because you can do it. No one makes you. As a coach, I don’t make anyone run. My runners make the decision to come to our workouts or our group runs; they make the decision to run; they decide how far they want to run.
One decision that I think every runner should make is to make running with a group part of their running routine. Whatever distance your training for running, training with a running group will enhance your experience.
These are members of my Run Tampa group before a run on the Bayshore, one of the most famous and beautiful bayshore venues in the country. Halfway through the run we run out to the end of a pier, and that's usually just as the sunrises. It's magical.
When my runners go home, they have the mental satisfaction of knowing they've nurtured their bodies with exercise, and they’ve also nurtured their spirits with an hour or so of laughing and chatting with friends. This is critical. Laughter, chatter is as important as the running, itself. These people support and encourage each other, not just in their running accomplishments, but in the events of their daily lives that they share over the weeks and months spent running together. It is clearly both the running and the sharing that unify these groups.
They become friends that share a bond. They develop a camaraderie that is spiritually strengthening and empowering. The energy of the group, mental and physical is much greater than its parts.
Study the research. It all shows that people who have more friends live longer, and, the research also shows that the more time we spend with friends and family, the longer we live. And, it stands to reason, we live longer because we are happier, and we are happier because friends make us happy. We all need to know that other people care about us. And when we care about other people and for other people, it makes us feel good. That’s not rocket science, is it? Yet, this topic seems to get little attention.
I saw a program on TV recently about the happiest cities in the world. Seems like an odd topic, but it was fascinating. One thing that caught my attention is that in one city, they had laughing clubs. That’s what they were called.
That struck a chord with me. My Become a Runner class breaks into groups for their workouts based on their current fitness level, and I move from group to group during the workout to answer questions, motivate, etc. Every night, I am delighted by the music of laughter that periodically arises from each of these groups. Most of these people are at the stage of doing a walk/run pattern. They get so absorbed in conversation that they seem to barely take notice of the change in exertion between the walk and run segments because they are too distracted by the conversation.
I think one reason running is good for us is because it brings us – at least those of us involved in running clubs – into a community of people on a frequent basis, and for some, that is life enriching.
If someone would only do a study to compare a group of physically fit people who train together and a control group of physically fit people who train alone, do we even have to guess which group would be the happiest. I would have to guess the people who train together.
Oh, sure, some people are ‘loners,’ but even loners benefit from being around other human beings, even if they don’t seem to interact much; I’m sure of it. I once had an individual I thought of as a loner; I worried that he wasn't enjoying the group, but to my surprise one day as we jogged along, he told me how much he was enjoying the company of the group. In his mind, he was not a loner. He was always more quiet than anyone else, but he didn't even seem to realize that he was not as involved as the rest.
Human beings, I think, thrive on socializing. It’s good for us, but far too many people go home alone at night. This shouldn’t be. A running group can offer a refuge, a place where anyone can go and spend time with friends, exercising, chatting, and whiling away a few miles.
When you run with a group, it becomes your second family, your network, your extended support system. If you are a distance runner, then you cover lots of topics while out on long runs with your friends. Over the months and years, few topics will be off limits. Running, often, is therapy, in more ways than one.
Oh, some people reading this will say, “I like to run alone.” Of course, I get that. I, too, like to run alone – SOME of the time – but most of the time, I enjoy being with other runners.
One thing I know is true: You can never have too many running friends; that’s my motto. Well, one of my mottos.
If you would like to run with people, but you don’t know how to hook up with a running group, that will be the subject of my next post. Stay tuned.